I’m one of those people who wants everyone to like me. It will drive me crazy if I meet someone and they don’t seem to like me instantly. I want to stand on my head and perform circus tricks and do anything I can to make them like me. Sometimes, I probably go overboard and push people away, but I just want to me to like me. I want it oh so badly!
In my random thought patterns, I started thinking about this. What makes a person like me? What makes people like others? What makes me like others? I’m sure there is some psychological explanation for it but I’m not on that intellect level so I’m just going to think it out; here on this computer screen.
When I meet someone, I don’t like to feel snubbed. I want them to be open to receiving me, my personality, and all my quirkiness. I try to like everyone I meet; though, I do fail in the judgmental arena. I often scold myself for judging others based on their outward appearance or what I may have heard of them prior to actually meeting them. If I want people to give me a chance, then I should definitely return the favor to them. I should approach the meeting with an open mind and heart.
But what is it about me that makes someone like me? I would love people to see the image of Christ in me. I hope they see kindness and hospitality. I hope they see an open heart and open mind. I want them to see a loving person and a good friend.
I am interested to know what you look for in a new friend? Are you open to new friends or do you prefer your personal group of friends? What do you want people to like about you?
Curiously Yours,
The Milk Maid
It is easy to be friends with you. You are bright and bubbly and loving. Your heart is open to others. And it is so easy to see Christ dwells in you and how much you love Him. Those are definitely traits to find in a new friend. What I pray people see in me is that I like to encourage others. I like to lift them up when they are down. I like to share Christ’s love when they feel it least. I hope that is what others see.
I like you!
One of the things I love the most about you is your playfulness. You aren’t afraid to be real AND you make me laugh. But it’s the way you light up when you see me, the way you NEED to give me a hug at the start of our Tuesdays.. It just speaks acceptance and love. Everybody needs that!
What do I look for in a new friend…. probably a desire to be in relationship… I guess the word would be “openness”….
What do I want to be in a friendship? A safe place for friends to be who they are in each moment…
I’m so blessed that you are my friend! I love you!
I love you both AND I like you both!
Nichole…I feel the same way! I think I’m tooo much of a “people pleaser” at times. I really want people to like me, and if they don’t I take it personally!
I think you are a great friend!☺ We may not actually see eachother in person alot anymore, but you are still a friend I cherish! And we sure do have alot of fun memories of our younger years!
I struggle with the judgmental part also, you can’t be married to a State Trooper and not be judgmental!(Well, I’m sure you can…it’s just reallllly hard)
I like my “old friends”, but I always like to make “new friends” too!